I’m going to take a quick break from my “You should’ve seen it in color – Picture” series to highlight some contradictory behavior I’ve noticed in women lately.
I try to be cognizant of my behavior, especially behavior that follows a pattern or deviates from what I would consider reasonable. I first noticed this behavior in myself two weeks ago on trash day. We were running late because I hit snooze one too many times and Mark asked me to take out the trash because he wouldn’t have time before they came to collect it. I was a little annoyed because trash is gross and I am a lady, but I took out the trash without complaint. It was my fault we were late, after all.
The next week on trash day we were again running about 10 minutes behind (surprise, surprise) because I couldn’t drag myself out of our warm bed with it being so cold outside. Mark rushed to take out the trash and said something in passing that suggested I shouldn’t be taking out the trash.
And I was offended. I know that he was thinking that I do so much around the house, he doesn’t mind taking out the trash. But in the back of my mind I was hearing, that isn’t your role/job.
Mark asked me to perform a task that is stereotypically considered “man’s” work. I was offended. He suggested I shouldn’t have to do that job because it isn’t “woman’s” work. I was offended.
The poor guy can’t win. I want to be treated like a 100% equal, but I also want to be exempt from tasks that don’t fit my idea of what it means to be a woman. I’ve since noticed similar behavior in many of the women around me. We want to be independent, strong, and in control, but we also want to be taken care of like princesses.
My question to you is – can we have both? Or is it in our best interest to forfeit one of those aspirations?